What Doesn’t Kill You Still Hurts Like Hell… Get Over It

I have a LOT of clients going through break ups right now. A LOT. Most of them got dumped, so I hear a lot of depressing details. I’ve listened and learned. Here’s my open letter to broken hearts everywhere:

1. If they dumped you, they don’t want to date you. Definitely get your “revenge body”, but don’t do it if you think that will win them back. Don’t use social media to “run into them” at a bar where you’re dressed to kill. Chances are they actually put some thought in before they let you go… don’t be desperate.
2. You’re not a loser. Just because ONE PERSON in this world doesn’t want to be with you doesn’t mean 100 others don’t. Stop thinking small.
3. Don’t talk shit. Don’t say bad things about them. Better yet, don’t talk about them at all. The more you talk about them the more they will be in your world. Hopefully you’ve gotten to a place where you realize there will be no making up, so let them go.
4. You’re lucky. You get a new beginning! Think of all the people in this world stuck in dead-end relationships. Maybe they stay together for the kids, maybe to save face, or maybe because they’re too weak to say you know what, it’s going to be hard being alone but I know it needs to happen. Wouldn’t you rather wish you had a relationship than wish you didn’t?
5. Find yourself again. You were buried in the twists and turns of a clearly failing relationship. You let yourself go and began loving someone else more than yourself. Or maybe you didn’t and that’s why you got dumped… either way- you get to be YOU again.
6. Thank that person because they did you a favor. They got you out of a relationship with someone who clearly either can’t stick it out, or who isn’t right for you (or both).
7. You always have been and always will be OK. Why? Because you have to be. You honestly don’t have another option. It’s either don’t get over it, or do and move on. Wouldn’t you rather have the latter?

It sucks getting over someone, it really does. So give it a good cry, feel the sadness, then let it go. You are strong and don’t ever forget it.